How To Get A Girl’s Number 2016-12-05T09:19:32+00:00

How to Get A Girl’s Number

What Stops You?






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Is This You?

You’ve been talking to this pretty girl and you’re really into her. But it’s time to put up or shut up. You can only go on for so much longer without asking for her number because then you’ll push yourself into friend territory” and nothing beyond. Time to ask for her number, but your mind goes blank. Your anxieties shoot up. What if she says no? Or laughs? Or totally brushes you off and bruises your ego? It has happened before and it just about killed you. You put all your heart and courage into asking the last girl for her number, but were shot down and totally dismissed. That burden has carried on with you till today. How you know it’s not going to happen again? How can you make sure that it doesn’t happen again?

Is She Interested Or Just Being Nice?

Are you worried that you’re mistaking her friendliness for genuine interest? Too many guys have made the mistake of misreading their encounters with women and they assume that she’s into them because she’s willing to talk and meet up. These situations don’t end well because the guy and girl are on totally different pages. Maybe you’re afraid that she’s not that into you even though she’s talking to you. You can’t really tell and then only later realize through mutual friends or some other way that she actually was very interested and you’re hurt that you didn’t ask for her number. How can you ensure that you never miss an opportunity and get her number at the right time and in the right situation?

What’s The Right Way To Ask Her Number?

Maybe you’re confused and befuddled about the WAY to ask for her number.  Should you be genuine and sincere? That seems lame to you. You’ve seen plenty of “good” guys pour their hearts out to girls, only to get rejected – caught like a deer in the headlights and get run right over. So you’re hesitant about taking this approach and making yourself vulnerable. On the other hand, should you be aggressive and assertive? That seems too forward. Being assertive is often misconstrued as being cocky and overconfident. No woman likes an egotistical maniac! You know there are fun, clever ways to ask for her phone number because you have seen your friends do it, but you don’t really understand the process.

You Got Her Number. Now What?

Is she going to think that you’re calling her as a friend to talk about weekend plans or does she know that you’re into her and want to ask her out on a date? Getting her number is half the battle – what you say after getting the number will ultimately decide whether you are going to be friends with her or something beyond. So what are the right things to say to steer the relationship into a direction where there’s romance involved?

What If You Could Learn How To Get Any Girl’s Phone Number?

What’s the point of getting the courage to talk to a pretty girl and then wuss out at the moment of truth –– asking for her phone number?  Sure you might THINK she’s not that into you, but how do you know that she’s simply not playing hard to get? If you got good at asking for a girls phone number, your sex life would double or triple.

You’d Date The Hottest Women

Imagine if you knew a dozen different techniques of asking women for their phone number. Each one funnier and cleverer than the next. Not only would you get the girl’s number, you will ensure that she would actually pick up the phone when you call or text.

And Exude Rock Star Confidence

Learning or even memorizing the techniques in my book would give you the confidence to ask even the hottest woman for her number. Imagine walking into any party or social event, knowing confidently exactly how to ask for a woman’s phone number in a charming, funny, or clever way. Imagine what that will do to your confidence level, not to mention, your dating life. 

What You’ll Learn In My Get Her Number Guide:


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You’ll Also Learn…

•  How To Get HER To Ask YOU For Your Number. Learn playful, and clever ways to get her to do the work for you. These are truly ”meet cute” ways that will make you stand out from the crowd.


•  4 Approaches To Ask For Her Email Address. Sometimes you’re  better off asking for her email. My tested examples have shown consistent success with all types of women in a wide range of settings.  Asking for her email will often work better than asking for her number because she might feel it’s “safer.”


•  4 Things To Write In Your First Email To Her. You don’t need help writing an email to a girl that you already have a strong connection with, but if you’re not sure how she feels about you, these 4 tips will make sure she ends up liking you.


•  How Long To Wait Before You Make The First Call Or Text. Meeting a woman at a Starbucks at four in the afternoon is different than meeting her at a club at two in the morning.  Meeting a woman who’s hot for you is different than meeting one who’s lukewarm. Learn the rules about perfecting the timing of your text or call. And what to say when you make it. 


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The author on the set with Greg Behrendt and Tyra Banks.

I started my career by syndicating a sex and relationships column all over the country and I sort of became known as the “East Coast Dan Savage.” Next thing I knew I was auditioning for a co-hosting role in a sex makeover series called The Sex Inspectors.

With the screen test cameras rolling, I remember the production chief asking me what I thought of women faking their orgasms. “That’s nothing,” I sniffed. “Men fake whole relationships.”

I got the job.

The show went on to be an international hit, airing in 12 countries, including the U.S. on HBO. It led to my biggest book yet, Sex Inspectors Master Class: How To Have An Amazing Sex Life (Penguin).

I love giving advice to people. I love to see barriers crack and humanity come to the surface. I hope I’m able to do that with How To Get A Girl’s Phone Number and hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did writing it.

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How To Get A Girl’s Phone Number

Asking for a woman’s phone number is one of the most nerve-wracking things you can ever try. You get so wrapped up in the possibility of blowing it that you lose sight of why she’s talking to you in the first place–because she’s interested. Even if that interest is mild or ambiguous.

In the wake of all that anticipatory anxiety it’s easy to sound so desperate, meek or try-hard that you practically guarantee some form of rejection (like when she says, “Why don’t you give me your number instead?” or “I don’t give out my number to people I don’t know”).

We all know guys who are great with women. They’re confident, they’re experienced and they know just what to say. They’re so smooth they can drive a convertible through a car wash and not get wet. What’s their secret?

You’re about to find out. This book is a little different than what you may be used to, though. If you’re looking for a seduction guru who “cracked the code” and brags about how they can get a phone number in 3 minutes flat, you need to get your money back. You’re not reading an autobiography; you’re reading a journalist’s investigation into the best ways to get a girl’s phone number so you can ask her out.

Typically, some self-styled “seduction guru” tells you that his technique, and only his technique, will work and that it will work under all circumstances with all women.

The problem with listening to any one expert is that you only get one perspective. And while these experts may be wildly successful, most of them are raging extroverts. What if you’re not?

I mean, it’s fine if you have the kind of personality that could talk to a wall and go home with it’s plaster, but most guys don’t have that kind of personality.

To combat the One Perspective/One Personality trap I interviewed many of the top seduction gurus as well as a wide variety of good-looking women who constantly get hit on. I also talked to respected psychologists in the field of persuasion and leading sales experts who know a thing or two about “Getting To Yes.”

The result is this: A “Best Practices” Guide to getting a woman’s phone number. You will not be learning “my” techniques, but the techniques that players, women, psychologists and sales geniuses all agree have the best chance to land you a number.   Whether you’re in a bar, restaurant, a park, hell, even an elevator.

By providing different perspectives and solid rationales from the fields of sales and persuasion, you’re going to find solutions that you’re more comfortable using, given that everyone has different personalities.

One last thing. This isn’t a guide to trick or manipulate women into doing something they may not want to do. After all, what good is tricking or pressuring a girl to give you her number if she has no intention of calling you back?

This is a manual that helps you connect with a woman more fully so that she wants to give you her phone number and in turn, wants to pick up the phone when you call.

So make some space in your phone. By the time you finish reading this guide, you’re going to need it!

Factors That Influence A Girl To Give Out Her Number

Before we get into specifics it’s worth noting what influences a woman to give you her phone number, even if the connection isn’t that strong.

All the experts I interviewed agreed on one golden rule: Never treat the phone number as the goal, but a natural extension of a worthwhile conversation. Here are some other rules:


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Getting A Woman’s Number

Only Ask If You Have Established a Genuine Connection

Otherwise you’re going to get a fake number or worse, never get your calls returned. Some of those “seduction experts” may be able to close her in three minutes flat, but that isn’t the reality of the vast majority of guys. Most psychologists who study dating behavior agree that a 15-20 minute conversation before asking for the phone number maximizes your chances of getting it. There are exceptions, of course. It’s possible to establish a genuine connection in a couple of minutes, and if either one of you have to rush out it’s imperative that you ask quickly (more on that later).

Never Actually Ask For Her Phone Number

“Asking” for her number is like asking for permission to call. That is not Alpha Male behavior. Here are examples of “permission-asking” behavior:


  • May I have your number?
  • Can I call you some time?
  • Would you give me your phone number?

So how do you get her to give you her phone number if you’re not supposed to ask? Keep reading.

Flirting Strategies For Guys

Why You Should Ask For Her Email Instead Of Her Number

It’s a big deal for a woman to give her number out to somebody she doesn’t know well. Women have legitimate safety concerns. Believe me, early on you’re being evaluated under three categories: Potential friend, Potential Lover, or Potential Restraining Order.

You can bypass the fear factor with a low-risk request: Her email address. In the world of rock, scissors, women, email beats phone every time.

See, women have a lot of reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Sometimes it’s just to get you off her back. Some like the ego stroke of getting calls from lots of guys.   Can’t you just hear her turning to her friends while the phone rings off the hook–“Why are so many guys calling me!”

Of course, most of the time women are actually interested. The problem is that unless she had strong interest she may be standoffish, uninterested and sometimes, downright rude on the phone. There are a lot of reasons for this. Depending on how much she drank and how many guys she met, she may not fully remember you. Or sadly she may have recalled that you weren’t all that and a bag of chips. Either way, you’re left with one dud of a phone call.

This doesn’t happen with email. Not only is it easier to ask for, it exponentially increases the chance of a positive response. Here’s why:


You’ll be less rattled with a first email than a first phone call.

Because you can think it through beforehand, you’re much likelier to write something fun, inventive and clever than you are to impulsively come up with something over the phone.

It’s easier for a woman to reply to an email than to respond to a phone call.

What if you call when she can’t answer? A lot of women have a rule about not calling back (women like to be the chasee, not the chaser), or she may not be interested enough to dial your number. Hitting the “reply” button on your browser doesn’t take much of an investment. Emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

Email gives you a better chance at building attraction with a woman who’s ambivalent about you.  So here are a few really clever ways to ask for her email:


Getting Her Number

The Ten Most Effective Ways To Get Her Phone Number


#1 Seed The Idea Of A Meet-Up.

Let’s say you’re talking about a great park you both like to go to. Tell her you know a great spot to feed the ducks and that you’ll show it to her sometime. When the conversation is close to ending, then say, “Hey, let me take your number and we’ll arrange that trip to see the ducks.”

Here’s another example: You’ve discovered a shared interest, sushi. At the end of the conversation, say, “Hey, give me your number, and we’ll give that new sushi place a try.”


Here are nine more ways to ask her, each one increasingly more entertaining and clever than the next…



Asking For Her Telephone Number

Should You Keep Talking After You Get Her Number?

There are two schools of thought about this question. On the one hand, leaving right after you get her phone number makes it look like the whole point of talking to her was to get her phone number. Which makes you a self-validating prick who isn’t interested in adding genuine value to her life. Don’t make her think you wanted her phone number more than you wanted her.

By continuing to talk to her, you strengthen the connection and build more attraction. This is an important point if you’re getting a lot of phone numbers, but never get your calls returned. Or worse, getting them answered but never getting a date (or a hookup) out of it.

Once you build more attraction you’ve dramatically increased the chance that she’ll call/text you back. Each new thread of conversation weaves a stronger bond between you. The more investment she makes (in time, in emotional currency) the more she is going to want a return on that investment. Like picking up the phone when you call and saying yes to a date.

Besides, nothing is more awkward that constantly running into a girl the same night you got her number. If you’re going to leave, LEAVE. Don’t hang out in the same place.

An Opposing View

In most cases, you should be….



Flirting Advice For Guys

What To Say On The First Call (Or Text)

Here’s a common texting mistake:

“Hey it’s Mike, It was nice meeting you tonight, hope your night went well.”


Yes, show her you have the personality of a parking meter. A dry text or voicemail like that adds no value to the conversation and puts the burden on her to keep the conversation from slipping into the abyss.

One word: Playful.


Great Text Examples:  Here are some kick-ass opening texts that’ll make her paw the ground for you…



Flirty Text Messages For Guys

How To Avoid Conversational Dead-Ends On The First Call

The trick to preventing conversational dead-ends is to jump from one subject to the other BEFORE any one subject dries up. You do this all the time with good friends–you just don’t realize it. Here, look at the difference in conversational styles between:

You and a Stranger…


You: Have you been to that new boutique hotel downtown?

Stranger: No, I haven’t. Have you? (continues thread)

You: Yeah, it’s pretty rad (continue thread)

Stranger: What makes it so different? (continues thread)

You: It’s got a pool in the middle of the lobby. (continue thread)


Can you spell B-O-R-I-N-G? Now look at the same conversation if you’d had it with a good friend…


How To Get A Stripper’s Phone Number


Never say “yes” when the stripper you’re crushing on asks if you want a dance. If she gives you one you’re never going to get her number because you’ve just become another john to her. Instead, say something like,



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What Are Guys Just Like You Saying About This Guide?

What a resourceful guide! I was always hesitant about asking any girl her number because of sheer nervousness. This guide taught me how to overcome certain fears I had and be confident with my approach, every time. A truly helpful book!
Santo, 40
I finally don’t need to be 3 drinks down before asking for a girl’s number. This book has taught me what to say and how to say it to any girl, even if she’s really hot! I’m going on more dates now than ever before. Thanks to the author!
Chris, 28
You’ll find dozens of articles on how to get a girl’s number, but few, if any, are able to describe the “actual” details of what a guy needs to do. Not only did this book dive head first into the topic, it’s short too! I read it in 30 minutes and used it the same night I bought it.
Drew, 48
I had no idea that there were things I was doing completely wrong when asking a girl for her digits. This book goes beyond teaching you what you SHOULD do…it also tells you what you SHOULDN’T do! Really glad to come across this book.
Ron, 26


To the point, concise, and delivers exactly what it promises. There’s no need to watch endless videos on how to get a girl’s number or read hundreds of pages. You’ll be done with this in less than an hour and actually walk away with loads of useful info.
Smith, 31
A really funny yet informative take on the whole topic! My female roommate read excerpts of this book after I bought it and vouched for it herself! Doesn’t happen very often that you hear a girl admitting what will work on her if you want to get her number!
John, 24
Guys, stop wasting your time and money on those expensive magazines and extensive books that you’ll finish in a few years because they’re so long! This book gives it all to you in less than 50 pages.
Anthony, 33
I’m truly impressed at the techniques the author has mentioned in this book. The Neutral Dominance Technique has worked more than a handful of times for me! I’m shocked and this book has made me believer, girls can actually give their number to you before you even ask.
Tom, 38







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